Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Ruby: May bell

Ruby spent the day on the deck in the sun.  Just like her mother May Bell used to do in Austin.

Monday, April 27, 2015

Vince's backpacking trip..

Vince and Jeremy went backpacking with the scouts this past weekend.  The weather was going to be spotty, rain predicted for Saturday afternoon, but it held off until after dinner so they mainly stayed dry.  Let me entertain you with my newly aquired GIF ability.  I promise I won't do this too often.  I might give you a headache if you look at it too long.

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Weekend without the boys...

The boys were out backpacking this weekend, so it was just me and Edda.  I cooked.  I worked.  And I took Edda places.  In the last few years, I've felt like I've been a little nervous bringing Edda places. I think I'm just a little out of practice.  Both Jeremy and Nat are so confident when they take Edda out, they'd both take her bungee cord jumping if that was what was happening.  But not me.

Maybe it's because her mass/height is rapidly approaching mine and I'm nervous about her slipping out of my grip.  Or maybe because I think it's too much trouble to spend all that time to get her dressed/in & out of the car/getting the wheelchair and we can't just fly under the radar wherever we go.  I'm trying to not make it a thing or a big deal and just go and do it.  This weekend, we went grocery shopping at Giant, to Home Depot (I fixed our broken dryer for under $3) and to a three-year old's birthday party.

We were fine.  We had fun.  I should just take Edda places on my own.  It's not a big deal.

P. S. I love my new watch.  It is totally, entirely, utterly a non-essential item, but it is delightful.  I took a phone call on it today.  I spoke into my watch and the person on the other end spoke through my watch to me.  I tracked my run today (it's terrible at calculating pace, but just fine on distance).  I've taken picture with the remote control on my iPhone.  It's a clever little thing.

Friday, April 24, 2015


We had a meeting this morning with Edda's elementary school team and her future middle school team to talk about her transition next year.  We were able to maintain her existing physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy sessions, we are pleased about that.  We even got a slight bump up in PT (an extra 15 minutes a week).  We brought over Edda's new eye gaze computer and showed it to the team and to the augmentative communication specialist.  We'll work with the school to figure out what software to buy.


I was working on patents this afternoon and the doorbell rang.  Jeremy (who was working from home b/c of the morning Edda meeting) came upstairs bearing a small rectangular box.  I asked him, what's the box?  Did you order something?  He shrugged - I dunno he said.  I opened it and saw a white box inside and I said, hmmm, it looks like an Apple thing, maybe they sent us an extra power cord by mistake (Vince's power cord broke on Monday and I was fuming that Apple has the audacity to charge $80 to replace it.  I have a love/hate relationship with Apple).  Then I realized that Donald surprised me with an iWatch!

I'm so not covetous of any material thing, I had no intention of ever buying a smart watch, I barely knew today was the release day.  Maybe I'd buy it when everyone else had been wearing one for years (like I did with my smartphone, I didn't get one until the iPhone 4 came out).  But I had this incredible feeling of giddiness when I opened the package and tried it on.  A little fluttering of the heart and excitement that I hardly ever feel.  So intense and short lasting, this little rush of dopamine.  I can understand why people shop and wait in line for a long time.

Jeremy exclaimed, they are all sold out now!  You can't get one until June now.  Then he said, I can't believe you got a smart watch before me.

Thank you, Donald.  You make me feel like I'm hip and with it (day 1 release!) instead of a suburban mom who does all her clothes shopping with an 8 dollar price point limit.

Thursday, April 23, 2015


Our dryer broke yesterday.  Lucky for us, we keep a spare dryer on our landing (it has been living there for at least 4 years).  Swapped them out last night and we are back in the clean clothes business.


Do you know you can get an acting job being a fake patient for nursing students?  Today we interviewed fake psych patients while our classmates looked in via installed cameras in the interview room.  They are trying to teach us to be empathetic and they grade us on how much eye contact is made and how comfortable we made the patient feel.  It's hard to be empathic with a patient who is hallucinating.  I got the person with dementia.  Other people got bipolar, schizophrenic, PTSD, and panic attacks.  Then we critiqued each other in post-conference.


The boys are going camping this weekend.  Prep is underway.

Wednesday, April 22, 2015


With some funding from the state, we got Edda her own eye gaze tablet.  One of the ways that Rett girls have been able to access software is through using their eyes.  Tobii has made a system with cameras that can capture eye movement and use it in place of a mouse.  Many years ago (October 2011 according to the blog), we did a month-long trial where tried a system made by the same company, but it was big, bulky and $18,000. And it was clear to me that it was not an easy-peasy thing for Edda to do.  So we let that go.

Now, less than 4 years later, we have this:

A much more reasonable $3400, which the state chipped in $2000 and then we paid for the balance and now we have a tablet with an eye-gaze bar on the bottom.  For that low, low price, we didn't get any software and we didn't get any tech support.

It's going to take a while to get it up and running.  Jeremy is all excited to figure out the software with the school system.  We are hoping that Edda'll be able to choose her own videos.  What a big step that would be - to look at all the videos she loves and pick the one she wants to watch instead of us picking for her.  Or maybe'll she'll be able to play a simple game so that she could actually direct something!  The little things I get excited about....

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

Middle school.

Early this school year, I thought that we should try to keep Edda in elementary school for another year.  I love her elementary school teacher so much (and all the staff) and I wasn't ready for her to move up in the school system.  But it looked like we would have to gather strength and really fight to keep her in her spot and I finally admitted to myself that I was just scared of the unknown - that I just wanted it all to stay the same.

The school year went on and Edda's current teacher and I would chat every once in a while and she would tell me how much she loved Edda and how much she would miss her next year when she went to middle school.  Today was the day to finally do the middle school tour - I was nervous because I never know if I'm going to be incredibly sad or incredibly happy at the end of any school meeting I have...

But I was really happy at the end of this tour.  Edda's new teacher is energetic and fun, a bunch of Edda's old pals are there.  The facility is amazing!  This is a school that they completely tore down and rebuilt only four years ago, so it's filled with natural light and windows. It has a dance studio, a rock climbing wall, a weight room with treadmills and rowing machines, a beautiful courtyard, a sensory room, beautiful art and music facilities.  (We warned the art teacher that Edda hates art.) There is a whole wing dedicated to special needs students with kitchen and laundry facilities.  This summer, they are upgrading all the computers in the school and giving all the kids Chromebooks.  Edda's classroom already has two iPads and we'll be sending in Donald's old one in with her.  I'm excited about next year.  Edda was a little concerned and gave her new teacher the side-eye, but I'm hoping that she'll soon love her new school.

Monday, April 20, 2015


Edda woke up this morning with her face, hair and pajamas full of blood.  She had a pretty bad nose bleed during the night and I didn't notice it was happening when I crawled into her bed at 5 am.  We gave her a quick shower where you could smell the smell of iron, cleaned her up, and she was ready to go to school.  The bleed stopped quickly, but I couldn't help think that it was my nonchalant comment about "Low platelets? Who cares about low platelets?" coming back to bite me on my ass.

And!  Her wheelchair is on its way to California, hopefully to get the best new brakes ever.  So good that we don't have to repair it ever again.


Vince made dinner tonight.  Very spicy chicken legs and avocado rolls.


Jeremy has developed a need for new shoes to go with his fancy suit.  So he's trying out different ones, all black, all looking the same from 15 feet away.  I think these penny loafers are the winner.

Sunday, April 19, 2015


Vince's violin lessons are on Sundays.  We had to tell Kelly today that Vince won't be able to make the recital this May because of a number of scheduling issues.  I relief to me too because I was suppose to play a piano duet with him and I haven't touched the piece of music.  In exchange, Vince is going to try to do a duet with his friend Ivan who plays the trumpet and we'll put on a small house concert.

Saturday, April 18, 2015


We went to John's 50th birthday party.  We've been invited to their parties before and it's always a good time (with word games and trivia), but I have to remember they operate on Caribbean time and we operate on engineer time.  The party invitation said 6-10 pm which means that, for us, we show up at 6 pm on the dot and no one is in the parking lot.  Then we circle around Bethesda looking at big houses in expensive neighborhoods.  We arrive as the first guests 40 minutes after 6 and then went the party really starts at 8pm, we had to leave because it is past Edda's bedtime.

It was a beautiful evening to say hi to friends we haven't seen in a while.

The lawn was full of wild violets!

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Dr. appt.

I took Edda to her 11 year old check-up appointment.  We've been going to the same practice since we've moved to the DC area.  I was recommended this practice by another Rett mom and it's close to the house, but we never see the doctor who was recommended.  The primary pediatrician seems to have a rotating staff of doctors who stay about a year, so we see a new doctor every year.  Why do I go to a practice where I see a new doctor every year?  Because I can get an appointment on the same day, I never wait and I just want the vaccinations, flu shots and strep tests and ear infection checks. Anything more serious, I know to take them to a specialist.  We regularly go a full year between visits (thank goodness, knock on wood).  

And now, because Edda is so healthy and I'm not worried about her health, it's a way for us to teach someone about Rett Syndrome.  I know now how important it is to really have a chance to do a hands-on physical assessment on unusual cases and it's nice Edda gets to teach a new doctor who has never had a chance to do a full assessment on a Rett girl.  We sat for about an hour talking about pediatric development, platelet, PT, PTT, INR values, seizures.  She taught me a few things about puberty in girls (I haven't taken peds yet, soon!).  When she did her assessment, I told her to measure the head circumference because that's the interesting physical assessment on Edda.  We talked about our philosophical approach to testing.  She was pressing me to take Edda to a number of specialists, I was arguing against it.  Even though I am training to be in the medical field, I like to do fewer tests. Especially if the test result will result in no new course of action.

Edda got a tetenus shot for her troubles.


Then we took her to school, where she smiled a huge smile and went to hug Ms. Maureen...

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Fish sticks.

Jeremy is out of town.  Again.  I know, I kind of promised him that I wouldn't make such a big deal about him traveling, but I'm going to make a big deal on this particular trip because he is WITHIN COMMUTING DISTANCE OF THE HOUSE.  He's in Virginia on a work retreat.  I think they are toasting marshmallows by a campfire and singing Pete Seeger songs together.  Whaaaa?

Because he's gone, we are reduced to fish sticks.  Which is fine, everyone delights in fish sticks.  Especially when you make the special sauce that is 1:1 ketchup to mayo.

Monday, April 13, 2015


It has been so beautiful out!

Sunday, April 12, 2015


On the last day of Spring Break, Edda and I spent the afternoon napping together.  When Edda sleeps, all the tension in her body relaxes and she doesn't have the awake-rigidness that makes it hard for her to bend or turn.  When she sleeps, she can curl her body around mine.  When she sleeps, I can curl my body around her.  She is going to middle school next year.  I don't want her to grow up.

Stuck in Japan.

Lol. Flight got cancelled so looks like we are spending one more evening in Japan. Here's a photo of a 747-full of irate people ready to yell at some very poor, poor customer service reps who - no doubt - had to roused from their homes to come to the (now closed) airport. 

Since there's nothing for me to do, I'm writing this blog post. :) But, the woman sitting across from me is in a major bitch-fest mood right now. The kid to the left of me is watching a minecraft video on his iPad. I am reminded of Vince. 

Tokyo has mostly been a food/shopping trip. We've had some very fun, crazy and expensive meals here. We've had three sushi meals - Sushi Dai, Harutaka and Masa.  

Sushi Dai was the best value and a fun atmosphere, but it had the downside of being in the tsukiji fish market and required a 2.25 hour wait for a $40 meal.  I believe I found my new favorite cut of sushi - semi fatty tuna. OMG. 

Harutaka was your traditional, stuffy sushi bar. Very old school. Lawrence felt like he was being judged. 

The last one was Masa, which Lawrence's cousin, Richard, loves to go to. He's a fun inventive guy and  we blew thru no less than 25 rounds of omakase. Also, he's very accommodating to foreigners and allows photos to be taken (some places do not). Also, he's served us some stuff that I have never tried before - things like the connecting tissue between the shell and meaty part of very large large scallops. This was a dish. 

Here is a photo of his prepping o-toro, the fattiest slice of tuna. He cuts it very thinly and serves three slices layered with wasabi. This is because having one continuos piece of o-toro, is too much fat for the palette, so hence, the layering. 

Saturday, April 11, 2015



We are very excited to be eating BBQ for dinner.  Edda has this particular talent of being able to eat while she sleeps.  But this time, she just slept.

Clear Piles of Mulch & Fence Out Deer

Finally, the piles of mulch on our driveway were gone.  The mulch was there for almost a whole year.  Our next door neighbor was gracefully enough not to complaint.  It came from the trees of our rental property nearby.  While moving it, even our visiting couple friends helped.

I have also finished erecting circular wire fences for Mom's young trees individually.  Mom has about ~12 of them. Without fencing, the deer will get them first.

Too bid, I have already shipped my iPAD to U Street two weeks ago.  Or, otherwise, we can have some pictures to show.

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Cherry blossoms.

I took the whole day off and spent time downtown looking at the cherry blossoms around the tidal basin.

Edda had a fantastic time.

It was cloudy and just a bit chiller than we would have liked, but it meant that the crowds were manageable and the photos were fantastic.

The cherry blossoms are really beautiful.  We walked and looked at the monuments too.

We ended up in Georgetown afterwards.  We were debating at the beginning of the day if Edda would make it the whole day and she did!  Walked probably a mile and smiled most of the time.  And because of her, we were able to park easily and quickly in the heart of all the action.

Wednesday, April 8, 2015


Vince, Julia and Katherine went downtown today to the Smithsonian.  I stayed home and finished our taxes!  Here's Edda helping me figure out what deductions I can take for child care.  Hmmm.  There is a bit of chocolate on my lip from an Easter egg, I should have probably given some to Edda.

Moving On

Tomorrow is my last day with Uranium Processing Facility (UPF) at Oak Ridge, TN.  It is about time to move on after 14 months tenure. Particularly, I look forward to traveling with Rena to China, Alaska and Huntington Beach, CA to see our immediate family members vacationing there.  Also, look forward to finishing our addition at U Street and basement master bedroom at Sheets Farms.

Looking back to our (myself and Rena) ~12 years as a consulting pair working on the same project, doing exactly the same things, checking each other's work, it has been a worth-while experience. Better pay with more pocket money, less responsibility, more freedom without long term commitments and above all, live and work together and, in the mean time, visit many places and locales.

I probably will look for another short time job during the Summer time and this probably will be my last one :)

Tuesday, April 7, 2015


Jeremy's off to Detroit for two nights.  I dropped him off at the Metro station at 6:30 am.


I found a beaver dam this morning.

Monday, April 6, 2015

Spring fever.

The kids are off for spring break, but I am not.  I just want to sit outside and enjoy the sunshine.  Especially today since it got up to almost 80 degrees.  Who wants to sit inside and take an exam?

Words of War (Korea, Japan and China)

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Japan has China, not Korean, to thank for its Cherry Blossoms.

The Cherry Blossoms is native to the Himalayas, a Chinese official said recently, despite te flower's long association with the Land of Rising Sun.

According to the same official, there are ample ancient literature in China indicate clearly that Cherry trees were exported to Japan from China during Tang Dynasty.  And definitely, Cherry Blossoms are not from Korea as many Koreans also claim.

:)   :)   :)

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Happy Easter.

Katherine is visiting with her friend (and our friend) Julia.  With them, they brought all the Easter cheer.  We have been bursting with bunnies (and jelly beans and peeps).

Saturday, April 4, 2015

Bon Chon.

Dad's in town.  We went out to dinner at Bon Chon - a Korean chicken place.  I did not realize that Jeremy has grown to dislike this particular establishment.  It was a little loud and a little slow and the floors were a little sticky.  Other than that?  Perfect.  Dad is good.  Getting ready to travel to China, Alaska and all other corners of the world.  I'm happy he's going to be spending time with my mother.

It's a beautiful weekend.  I should be outside in the sun.  Instead, I'm studying psych:

And I'm writing a paper about Jehovah's Witnesses and the culturally competent health care I will provide them (they refuse blood transfusions).  Yes, I went to a JW meeting as part of my self-directed field experience.  Yes, everyone was very friendly.  And yes!  Now I have my very own Bible.  And today I learned today that I don't have to cite the Bible in my list of references if I quote from it.

Friday, April 3, 2015

Growing up.

When Jeremy was out of town last week, I didn't realize I had inadvertently turned down the volume of Edda's baby monitor.  I think this might be our seventh baby monitor - not that we've broken each one, it's that we are always looking for the monitor that's the quietest when Edda's not stirring and clearest when Edda is.  This one is pretty good.  It's so good that I didn't realize that I essentially had it off for 3 days.  Oh, the luxury of sleeping until 6 am everyday!  I try to get enough sleep that I don't need an alarm to get up, so I would wake up naturally at 6 am and peer into Edda's room and find her awake and lying awake and think to myself - I guess she just woke up 5 seconds ago.  Now I think the baby monitor is just to make Jeremy and me feel better.  Maybe we should just turn it off and let Edda be and both sleep until 6 am everyday.  Maybe Edda can wake up and put herself back to sleep by herself now.


I took Vince to his 13-year-old checkup today.  He's officially taller than me, but still about 5 pounds lighter than me.  Every since he's grown taller than me, I've felt a tremendous shift in our relationship.  It alternates between being such a grown-up relationship (where he cooks for me and has advice on things I'm thinking about) and a child-mom relationship (where he looks for me when he's hurt or when I nag him to do homework).  The shift in my heart was reinforced at the doctors office where all the questions and forms have shifted from the possibility of lead poisoning and TB exposure to Gardisil vaccinations and HIV.

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Happy birthday Donald!

I plucked this photo from Donald's Facebook feed.  I think he's having a good birthday.  Happy birthday you fool!  39!  Only one year from the big 4-0.  Wow, you are an old man now.


The University of Maryland Association of Nursing Students held a blood drive on Tuesday.  I took some photos for them.  I should remember to take twice as many photos as there are people.  I think that's the number I have to take to get a photo with everyone looking good.

Happy Birthday, Donald

Happy Birthday Donald, mom & dad