Sunday, February 18, 2018

West Virginia, snow, grouchy.

After Chinese New Year dinner, we dropped Vince off at scouts where he headed to West Virginia to go cabin camping.  Here's a photo from the FB page...

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The weather here is so strange.  It was 70 degrees earlier this week and then we had a snow storm last night and now it's on its way back up to 70 in a few days.  I ran on the treadmill this morning and then swam a bit to stretch the body out.  I messed up my hamstring a few weeks ago, so I'm willing it to fix itself.  I'm old, so it's not listening to me.

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It was crummy in the morning, but morphed into a beautiful afternoon.  Jeremy went bike riding.  Edda and I hung out on the couch and napped and watched TV and read a book.

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Vince came home and was grouchy.  He apologized for being grouchy and continued his grouchy-ness until dinner time.  There is a big project due in a few days, he made some forward progress on it.

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Saturday, February 17, 2018

Philly, nursing, Year of the dog!

I have fallen out of the habit of daily or almost daily posting/blogging.  This is not satisfying to me.  The time, then, just slips through my fingers.  I forget what I've been doing all week and then it all disappears like smoke in the breeze.  I will try to do better, that it what I say about all things, but most times it all ebbs & flows without much direction from me.

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I went to Philly on Tues for a quick back and forth to see my friend Vidya.  He's being discharged home soon which will be nice (to be home!  to see his daughter everyday!) and crazy daunting.  I'm not sure how to help them, a lot of the help that is needed is physical which I am happy and perfectly capable of doing, but I'm his friend and not his caregiver and there is a difference.  I remember when Edda was small and I was running around trying to cram a million hours of therapy practice outside of her formal therapy sessions driving myself insane and someone told me - you are her mother and not her therapist and that was really helpful to me. 

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I think I have a lead for a part-time flexible nursing job that will just slide into our family life without too much trouble.  It's not ambitious, it's poorly paid, but it'll bridge my resume until Vince goes to college.  It does work with the geriatric population and it is with a small-family owned company and it'll segue nicely into palliative care/hospice which is something I can do in a few years.  I won't have to go part time at my regular job and I get to keep all my night time habits like sleeping and all my weekend habits like watching Netflix. I hate being a new grad, all hospitals have "new grad" programs that start only twice a year, involve extra classes and projects, I don't want to do any of that.  Really, all I need is 4-6 weeks of training to do the job and then I can do it.  I lament that I've "given up" on any ambitious career (in both engineering (running engineering teams at 3M) and nursing (pediatric heart transplants)!).  I would have said that I've disappointed my parents in the previous decades, but now I think I'm just, in my mind, not living up to some sort of mythical feminist standard of what was expected from my trajectory in my 20s.  Anyways, this is good enough.  For now. 

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Happy Chinese New Year!  We celebrated last night with family at the Far East restaurant.

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We had peking duck which was extra delicious.

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I want to tell you that Edda had the most fabulous time at dinner.  She laughed and laughed and had two Peking duck wraps and loved the fish and the dumplings.  It was a lovely evening.

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Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Happy Valentine's Day

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Edda got me a Valentine's Day card and sent it in the mail. 

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I had a lovely day, though slightly unproductive.   Jeremy made me what I wanted - beef and barley soup with pretzel bread on the side.  He got my favorite strawberry cream cake from Whole Foods.  I had dinner with my family & we discussed the merits of the Seth Rogan movie - Sausage Party.

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Monday, February 12, 2018

Weekend catch-up. Toddler!


Wed found us with yet another snow day which was just as well because, though I could have sent sniffly Edda to school, she did well with another day at home.  I, again, took the day off.  Jeremy came home late on Wed, so we didn't really get to chat/debrief until Thursday morning when it was clear that he was sick as well. 

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This past week gave me pause about finding a nursing job.  Edda was sick, Jeremy was traveling, there was a snow day, a caregiver had the flu and cancelled on me the 2nd half of the week, there was a wheelchair / orthotics fitting for Edda on Thurs which required early pickup and there was a ton of honest discussions with Vince about school / college.  I just felt like I can't fit another serious time/space obligation in there.  I can fit a 15 hour flexible thing in there, but I can't fit a 30 hour non-flexible thing.  Vince decided to not do the IB program - this was after a lot of discussion with me and careful thought on his part.  Junior year is going to be difficult, even without the IB program - so I want him to be OK with what he is doing.  I will say that I'm reluctant to spend a lot of time away from the house because Vince is going to go to college in a blink of an eye and then I won't have this chance again.  It's not entirely smooth sailing, we did argue this past week (we always argue when Jeremy is out of town, Jeremy is like the rudder of our family, a steady, calming presence, though in the back and generally the last to know - hahahah sailing, rudder.  I like it.). 

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Vince got his first overnight babysitting gig.  Our next door neighbors had hired an actual grownup for their Valentine's weekend getaway, but the sitter cancelled because of (what else) the flu and so we pinch hit for about 24 hours.  I forget that toddlers need 100% supervision.  Edda, who I think needs 100% supervision, doesn't really need 100% supervision like a toddler needs it.  Vince, Edda and I went to the mall with our toddler and had Chik-fil-A for lunch and saw Paddington 2 (excellent!).  With both Grafton and Edda as temperamental movie-goers,  I was unsure if we were going to be able to see if Paddington would be reunited with his family (when Vince was very small, we never found out if Nemo was found, but Edda has certainly made up for it by watching it 100,000 times).  Grafton said in the middle of the movie - I don't like this anymore! - but we powered through.  We set up a tent in the guest bedroom and Vince did the whole bath, story & bed routine.  Grafton surprised me by promptly falling asleep in our spare bedroom.  I thought no way is he going to fall asleep quickly in a new environment, but he did!

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Edda had a really nice time on this outing.  I wish I was better about taking her out on adventures.  It was nice to have Grafton as an excuse to spend time with both of my own kids.  (Jeremy was still recovering from the week and needed some alone time.  I can't believe he passed up on seeing Paddington 2!  No worries, I gave him the complete plot synopsis on Sat night.)

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Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Edda still sick.

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Well Edda still seemed under the weather at 6:30 am, though she slept peacefully without any meds through the night.  Ning had already shown up for work and we both looked at Edda with concern.  She still seemed slightly warm.  She measured 37.5 C which is the lowest low grade fever. (We are C for fever temps in the house.  It's easier to remember and we did our most of our fever measuring in Singapore.  36 = no fever, 40 = high fever).  I gave her a Motrin, sent a text to the bus cancelling pickup and emailed her teacher for another day off and asked Ning to stay an extra hour so I could give Vince a ride to school and head to the gym for a quick run.  By the time I got back, Edda was recovering from a bloody nose and laughing and laughing.  She laughed for a long time and I thought I got tricked into letting her stay home, but it was just the Motrin talking.  I took her upstairs and she took two long naps today, both in the morning and in the afternoon.  I did take the day off of work, I kept her company a bunch and napped with her at times.  It was, again, a quiet day for both of us.

Monday, February 5, 2018

Olympia, sick Edda, recuperation.

Jeremy doing his thing in Olympia, fighting the good fight.  Though he texted me in the afternoon saying that he is afraid that he's coming down with Edda's cold.

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I took a sick day today and spent all day with Edda.  She is snotty & a bit warm & tired - but this isn't a terrible illness (thank goodness).  She ate well and slept a good bit of the morning.  I kept her hydrated with a squirt bottle and we watched a lot of movies.  I cancelled all the care.  I sent out 5 email/texts in total - morning care, morning bus, school, aftercare and evening care.  Can I say it was a relaxing day?  It was a day of recuperation, not only for Edda, but also for me!  I spent the afternoon looking for signs that she'd be ready for school tomorrow.  At about 7pm, she started laughing at her TV shows.  It was nice to hear and I think it means we are good to go. 

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Sunday, February 4, 2018

Dinner, Seattle, presentations, sick :(

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Saturday night, my parents hosted a feast for our Chinese visitors.  We got a selfie.  Whoops, Edda is a little drool-y.  No matter.

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Sunday, early am - Jeremy made his way to Seattle and then Olympia.  This trip was a little unpredicable because the legislative session dates were a moving target.  They are not a set date, even just a few weeks ago.  When he was buying the airplane tickets, he used this Google flight cost predictor thing-y that told him the $350 round trip ticket was probably going to go up to $800 in the next twelve hours and he quickly pounced on the tickets and got them for under $400.  Then he watched the alerts from the flight cost predictor ping him as the price went up to $1250.  He told me that this three (four?) day business trip was to make a 2 minute speech.  Two minutes?  Really?  You gotta calculate the per second cost then. 

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He met up (and is staying with) Dennis & Leslie.  They are in the midst of a ton of lobbying to be done during the legislative session as well.

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Meanwhile, while he was flying across the country, we spent the morning listening to many, many speeches about the differences between Chinese & American education & family life.  The ice water is a big thing.  OMG, the poor Americans who go to China hoping to get an ice cold Coke.  Pretty much impossible.   Mom got to pose with the whole cohort.  She was super pleased.

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Yifan (Irving) giving his talk:

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I'm sleeping with Edda tonight, she's under the weather and I think we can both use the company.  I'm hoping not the flu, so far the fever has been mild but the past few nights she's woken and needed some Motrin to go back to sleep.  But she has the shivers and slept most of the afternoon which is rare for her when she is well.  I spent the afternoon curled on the couch reading a book, listening to her crinkled breathing.  I was on the fence about sending her to school tomorrow, but I just sent the morning caregiver and the bus driver texts to forgo the morning routine.  I think she's spending the day with me tomorrow.  I'm trying to keep Vince away from her, I'm hoping that we can limit the spread of the germs.

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I should not only brag about Vince, I need to brag about Edda who perseveres everyday against her many challenges without complaint, I got this email from her teacher a few days ago.  My Edda!  Feel better soon, love.  xoxoxoxo

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